sometime, there's so much to say, you gotta make two updates!

I just read this...

by Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D
Shape November 2010

"Q.My friends have it easier than me-they're not stressed, in a dating slump, or struggling to get slim. It's not fair! I hate feeling this way-what can I do?

A. One of the biggest causes of emotional distress is holding on to the idea that life should be a specific way. And while it may appear that your friends have it all, chances are they're struggling with their own set of insecurities and problems that you're not aware of. So stop obsessing about what they have and you don't. Instead, assess what you'd like to change, and turn your envy and frustration into an opportunity for growth.  Pick one area t,o start with, such as work, relationships, or appearance. For instance, if you haven't had much romantic success, change your approach. You can't get different results by doing the same thing, so if you typically try to meet guys at bars, try connecting with them through your college alumni association instead-or ask your friends to set you up with someone. Going after what you want, rather than comparing yourself to others, is the best way to break out of your rut. But don't be afraid to ask for help; seeing a therapist might give you perspective."

a